Show Her That You Are In Control Of The Dinner Date Without Meaning To

There is a difference between being dominant and being domineering; but in both cases, you do not want to appear before your date like so. Most guys think that this should be the case. Unfortunately, what we think is “macho” comes across as belligerent. You can be on top of the situation without being abrasive to both your date and the people around you. A girl can be easily impressed with a man who keeps his cool under duress, but one who still manages to get his way.

Here are a couple of things to remember:

1. Be extra solicitous towards your date. Ask her what she likes before you even think about booking a table at a fancy restaurant. Never assume that just because you like something, means she will fall into step. Ask her what kind of food she likes and then book a table at a place that serves her kind of food. This way, you are implying that you are considering her choices, but you are the one with the last word.

2. Offer suggestions but do not force the issue. If she is hesitating about what wine to order, suggest something that you think she will like, but let her make her own choices. Do not ignore her wishes and demand what you want from the food servers.

3. If something unexpected pops up (your reserved table was accidentally given away, or the food server slops soup on you,) just laugh it off. Accept whatever apology is being given. However, in order to get the last word, offer a slight reminder to the offender that you “hope that something like this would never happen again.”