Seduction: The Female Definition

Seduction, in a man’s brain may mean the “Rated R scenes” from one of the many sleazy movies out there. It may mean slow dancing; a lot of heavy breathing and other cinematically blood rising actions that titillate. Seduction, in a woman’s point of view, happens more in the mind.

For us, we do not get seduced by having someone strip naked in front of us nor do we get all burning inside if we get a lap dance. You might get us giggling or laughing our heads off with your silly antics but if you ask us if we are getting seduced by such moves, the answer will be a big no.

What gets our inner daring siren come out are the most subtle moves you can imagine. A stroke on the cheek sends shivers down our spine, your eyelashes tickling us while you give us butterfly kisses does more effect than doing a pole dance with whipped cream covering your good parts. And if you massage our back while we are tying away in our computer, that makes our skin crawl with pleasure.

The best seduction tip any woman can give a man is for a man to understand that we women like to take it slow and we melt with every subtle touch, with every subtle move. So, if you want your woman’s knees to weaken and go crazy, try this very simple tip and rest assured that you will be thanking yourself you followed a less traveled path to seduction.

Do Not Discount The Power Of Subtle Praise

As a rule, men do not know or appreciate the power of subtly praising the woman they are with. Praising for men is mostly bipolar: it’s either there is none at all, or laid down so thick it actually feels like he is lying through his teeth. So how does a man know when to start and when to stop?

Perhaps the most important thing to know here is what the most appreciated praises are – from a woman’s point of view, of course. Praises need not be verbal, mind you. Forget wolf-whistling, especially on the first date (god help you!) A large smile meant only for her when she walks in the room is subtle but powerful enough to imply, “Hey, I like the fact that you are here with me.” A proffered elbow is always good, as with opening doors and making your date enter any indoor location first. Chivalry should not die with you, you know.

The terms, “you look great,” “you look so lovely” and “you look very nice,” may be so overused, but still very much appreciated. You could try sprucing it up a bit by saying her name too. Again, these are very subtle praises that can get you from point A (awkward) to point B (bulls-eye!)

A bit of advice though: try not to put a timeline on your praise, like “you look wonderful this evening” or “you are looking beautiful tonight,” or “I can’t believe how great you look tonight.” These phrases reek of too much insincerity. And to your date, they can mean a thousand things; but mostly they imply that she looks horrible during other times of the day.

Other phrases you could use: “You amaze me.” “I’m having fun.” “I think you are right.”

Dating Tips For Men

It’s a known and accepted fact in the world of dating: women are complicated. In order to be gain their affection, members of the female species need to be treated with great care. They are generally fickle-minded and can drop members of the male species like hot pancakes. They seem difficult to understand and even more difficult to please. However, if you know how the right strategies, dating women could be a breeze.

One of the best pieces of advice you can have is to remember the power of touch. This should be easy, considering men are keener on physical contact than women. A little touch can go a long way, provided you do it with subtlety and gentleness. For example, you can rest your hand on her arm when the waiter comes to take your order. This shows possessiveness and sends out signals that you will take care of her – and women dig that. You can also try brushing up your fingers on her face to push back strands of her hair. This will tell her you want to look at her closer and more clearly. If you think the time is right, you can add hints of passion and sensuality by placing your palm on her back to caress it softly. You can do this when she’s lost in words; watch her stop halfway through her story as she savors your touch and wonder what it means. It’s good to intrude on her comfort level once in a while so she will know you’re out to get more than friendship. Women love to feel they’re desired.

Asking Somebody Out For The First Time

If you have your eye set on a special someone you have to build the confidence and guts to ask her out. This is the standard things for men, but some women lately, are doing it too if they can’t wait for the man to do the first move.

Here are few tips on how to ask somebody out to a first date:

1. Ask yourself for the reason why you want to go out on a date. Do you really have the right reasons? Are you with the right attitude? What are your expectations in case she says no? What is she says yes?
2. If she rejects you, accept that. You may have a bad timing or she just isn’t into you so don’t fret about it too much and just move on.
3. Plan the approach. Bad timing will cause you a rejection. Choose the perfect moment to ask somebody out. Do not approach if you see that she is quite pre-occupied or busy. She might be stressed at the moment so try to delay the offer. If she looks ready, plan your opening statement well so you don’t get tongue-tied.
4. If the girl says yes, you must already be prepared with the venue, time, and the details so she knows you prepared for her that way.
5. Be ready to answer a seemingly intimidating question like “Why do you want to take me out on a date?” Flatter her and create the opportunity for her to trust you right then and there.
6. Ask her out directly but if she says she has to think about it first, let her think. Do not chase her like crazy. Never pressure somebody to go out with you.
7. Look positive and exude the fun spirit in you. Smile and let your fun side come out. A happy disposition will provide a nice atmosphere that can result to positive responses.
8. If she is not available on the time you specified, be ready with an alternative. This gives her an option and would make her want to say yes.
9. If she rejects the offer, don’t ask for the reason why. Just get on with your life and move away. Maybe she’s not yet ready at that moment.
10. If you asked somebody and she said yes, better be there to meet her on the agreed time and venue. Standing up a girl is unethical and a major no-no.
11. Do not play games with people’s feelings and time. Do not keep somebody hanging for no reason at all.
12. Do not drink alcoholic beverage to boost your confidence.
13. Time your approach as perfectly as you could. Do not approach somebody if she’s in a big group.